My GUY

So after the success of my first blog (success being measured by my family loving my blog and wanting me to write more), I have decided to continue writing some more blogs. I will use this blog as a diary of sorts to chronicle my life lessons, my thoughts and learning's and events for my children. I hope that I can somehow print these off and bond them together for journals for my kids some day. So today I officially dedicate all my blogs to Jamie, Brittany, Jason, Chelsea (my kids) and to my niece Michelle who got us all started in the first place. My husband has yet to read them... stay tuned for a special dedication to him some day in the future.

Here is my 2nd blog. Enjoy!




Today I write about one of my favourite people in the world my son Jason. (I only thought that it was right to dedicate the 2nd blog to my son after my first blog was to my girls.)



When Jason was born I was so happy for me. Not for his father who now had a son, not for my daughters who now had a brother, not to carry on the family name but for me. I had grown up with all much older sisters and all my life I so wanted to experience a brother. That didn't happen so my next best option was to have a son. And on September 14th, 1990 my prayer was answered and I was blessed with a baby boy named Jason. Jason was so adorable and quite frankly grew into the cutest little boy there was. (sorry my opinion). He was always happy baby and such a good baby.

Jason and I have always been close and always will be. He is "my GUY". When I was a single mom for about 12 years, Jason became the man of the house. He affectionately looked after his baby sister Chelsea and he loved to do extra special things for me... just to make my life easier. I can still see him standing in the kitchen one day when I arrived home in the evening late from working out of town, dishcloth in hand, broom leaning against the counter, getting ready to attack the kitchen and make it all clean for me. A surprize for me upon my arrival home. What a sweetheart!

But what always comes first when I think of Jason is what I deem to be his special gift. He is an old soul. He has wisdom beyond his years and always had. If you believe in reincarnation, you would think that he had been here on earth a few times before. He seemed to do and know things that he shouldn't for his age and it was like he knew his life purpose very early in life. For example when he was about 8 years old I found a note in his closet. It was his own personal will tucked inside a little bible. It was a very short read but essentially he was giving this things away in the event that anything happened to him. And if there was any money, it was to go to me as he was desperate to ensure that I was taken care of. (After all, he was the man of the house.) It was the sweetest note ever. I wished I had kept it.

As I had mentioned Jason seemed to know at a very early age, what he wanted in life, what he wanted to do and with what type of person he wanted to be. He knew the importance of working hard and playing hard and the balance needed for both. He has goals and he started to achieve them very early on in life. Goal like buying a snowmobile and saving the money for it, learning how to trap shoot and purchasing those guns for the sport, like riding dirt bikes, obtaining his hunting license, purchasing his black lab, and even purchasing his black truck. All of these things he has achieved already at the very young age of 18.

And note that all of these goals have never centered around the academics. I never once wished that he would be a doctor or a professional as a result of an university education because I knew (and he knew) it just wasn't his calling. When he was 3 years old, he picked up a piece of freshly cut wood, smelt it and said - I love that smell. That was the exact moment when I knew that academics would never be his first choice. He was a labourer. And how true that turned out to be. Jason strongly disliked the structure of school and the need for homework, but he should could ace a snowmobile licence or a hunting licence exam. Again, Jason knows what he likes and what he didn't.

Being an 'Old Soul' caused Jason to grow up fast. But Jason is the happiest person I have met in my life. He is currently apprenticing to be an electrician and he LOVES it. How many people do you know who can say at the end of each day that he had a great day. Probably not many, but truthfully I have never heard Jason say that he has had a bad day.

I am confident that he will remain focused and successful. I often laugh to myself thinking that Jason without his university degree will probably be the most successful monetarily wise than the girls who have or are going to university. It is Jason's focus and peaceful purpose that has served him very well thus far. I look forward to watch Jason as his life unfolds. And more importantly, I will continue to learn from this Old Soul...who is 'My GUY'.

JOKE'S ON YOU

Ok, this is now the craziest thing that I have done to date. I have joined the FB crowd, I text, email, msn and now a blog??? I probably won't continue creating blogs but today after reading Brit's blog, I thought hey - wouldn't it be crazy and so funny if I started. I won't tell the girls and let's just see how long it takes for them to find it!!!.. When they find out.... the JOKE is ON THEM!!! who knew The "MOM" had it in her??




So this one is for you Jamie, Brittany and Chelsea.....



You can see that my blog is called The "MOM". That is what I am affectionately called by the kids. Oh I get called just mom of course, but if the girls are talking, they may say The "MOM". And I will often say - I am The "MOM". It is a fun name that I know will stay for awhile. (Until I guess The "Grandma" starts. lol.)

So with this, I dedicate my first (and maybe only) blog to my girls.

I have 3 beautiful strong willed girls. J who is 23, B who is 20 and C who is 16. (Jason is 18). I am extremely proud of my girls. I have watched them grow up and develop into great people. The thing that I am most proud of is their ability to stand up for themselves. They are independent and strong young woman. And they are fast becoming my best friends. I look forward to the years ahead of us when their need for my parenting will be less and they will look to me for my support, love, my wisdom and advise.

This is an exciting time in all of my 3 girls lives as they are all currently searching for their place in the universe and for direction. Jamie is searching for her career path and her direction in the real adult world. Brittany too is exploring a new school next year and is also looking for her life direction. And Chelsea who is in grade 11, is also trying to determine her educational plan and life direction. I am thrilled about this. I am thrilled that they are all searching. They are NOT settling. They are going after what they want or believe they want. And this is the time to do that. None of them have any ties like a mortgage or children so this is exactly when they should be exploring and searching. I thank God that they all have the independence and the courage to say - nope don't like that, I am going to find something else. Too many people are unhappy in their station in life and wish they started or even continued with their search.

However, I wish I could assure them that it is a one time life search but it is not. They will have many searches in life and many things to discover in this school of life. But I am thrilled that they are searching now at such young ages as that assures me that as contributing adults in society, they will much to offer.

Yet as The "MOM" I fear that the most painful years are ahead of me as a parent. My darling girls are entering a time in their lives when I can't fix everything. At one time a band aid on their "hurt" solved their problem. Now their problems are larger and I can't fix them. More importantly, I shouldn't fix them. If I did, I would be doing them such an injustice. So I wait, I listen, I offer my thoughts, but I have no more band aids. I have to just be there for them in all the years ahead. And I know that I always will be. Why ..... because I am The "MOM" of the family. And I have learned from my own family what is really important and how a parent should really behave.

Life has given me a blessing by giving me 3 girls. Don't get me wrong, my son is someone who I totally adore and I would do anything for him and visa versa. My son and I will always have a very very special bond. But having my girls is absolutely wonderful. As young children, they were more challenging for sure. And then in their teens they just leave you and need you for food and money. But the reward is that they come bounding back in a very big way at about age 19. And it is at this time that you start becoming great friends.

So this is my first blog celebrating my 3 girls who I look forward to sharing everything with as we all get older.

To all who may stumble upon this blog.... It is indeed a pleasure to be The "MOM" to these 3 sisters.